Wednesday, July 23, 2008

Lesson #34

Lesson #34 - Gag gifts are the best.

First let me start with the disclaimer that I don't want this post to be misinterpreted. I love real presents, but boy, is it fun to laugh.

This trait for finding the humor in gag gifts runs strong and deep in my family tree. A prime example of this was for my father's birthday a few weeks ago. Unbenownest to me, my mother and I were plotting for the very same purpose. Her gift to him? A helmet and Speed Racer t-shirt poking fun at his obsession, er, enjoyment of the Wii. Our present? A Wii survival pack...picked out by the boys and I on a shopping trip. There were Wasabi Cashews for energy (because, as the boys said, "Poppop, likes his nuts hot."), a box of tissues to wipe his tears when Mommom beat him, a personal fan to cool himself down, a water bottle cooler to keep his beverages cold, and band aids for his blisters.

Then there was the Christmas that my oldest niece (my brother's daughter) gave us all fake lottery tickets. Yeah. Funny kid. Let's just say, we were a bit upset...impressed with her sick sense of humor, but disappointed nonetheless. I'm still trying to figure out how to get her back.

Then there was the Christmas my kids got my brother bright orange underwear. Slightly disturbing, but they howl with laughter every time they think about it. Sick kids.

So, to both of my parents, who so firmly implanted this genetic need to give wacky gifts, thanks. Because truly, those are the ones we still laugh about and bring up time and time again.

I love you both!

Tuesday, July 22, 2008

Lesson #33

Lesson #33 - Families look alike.

My mom purses her lips like her mother did. My dad and his sister could pass for twins. My brother looks just like my dad did at his age. I look just like my mom when I straighten my hair.

Of course, in one picture of me that I saw this weekend, I also resembled a Chucky doll when I was about 2 years old. So, maybe this lesson should be taken with a grain of salt. (No comments from the peanut gallery, please.)

It's comforting to know that we resemble the people we came from and that those who come after us will carry a little bit of us with them. Because in my dad I see his mom and in my mom I see her dad. And in me, I see both of them. And that's a good thing.

Thanks, Mom & Dad. =)

I love you both!

Monday, July 21, 2008

Lesson #32

Lesson #32 - Compassion goes a long way.

While cleaning this weekend we came across a letter that had been sent to my dad after he'd been in a car accident while in pursuit of another vehicle. It was written be a woman who he had helped the week before when her vehicle was almost stolen. The woman wrote how she had just been about to write to the police department commending my dad for the compassion, kindness and professionalism he displayed when assisting her when she saw news of his accident in the newspaper. She wished him a speedy recovery, but it was more than that that made the letter special.

It was a lesson about how being compassionate can truly make things better, and in this case feel safer, in any situation. The genuine heartfelt gratitude that you could feel coming from this 30 year old letter was as real as if the siutation had happened just yesterday. It was a great reminder about how great my dad is, and how wonderful he is at providing calm in the midst of chaos.

So, to the woman who wrote the letter...thank you!

I love you, Mom & Dad!

Sunday, July 20, 2008

Lesson #31

Lesson #31 - Being a pack rat runs in the family.

Really, this is a lesson from my mom. While cleaning out the crawl space of the house where we grew up, I discovered that I tend to hang onto things....just like my mom.

There was the Michael Jackson pin from way back when he was black, the Easter Bunny Smurfette, and just about every paper I had ever written in college and high school. In my mom's boxes were the cards from their wedding (with gift value amounts penciled in), a feather doll (now complete with mouse droppings) and just about every trinket my brother and I ever made for her. Obviously, hers had more sentimental value than the Michael Jackson pin, but overall, we're both afflicted with a touch of pack-ratness.

So, the lesson was more of one that I'm not alone in my compulsion to "save things". Thanks, Mom. I feel better. =)

I love you both!

Friday, July 18, 2008

Lesson #30

Lesson #30 - When you're sick, rest.

It's been a long week of not feeling well (summer colds are the worst), but I tried to follow the lesson I learned about being sick while I was growing up. If you're not feeling well, just rest.

So, I did and will continue to do so until I'm feeling not so yucky.

Good lesson, Mom & Dad!

I love you both!

Monday, July 14, 2008

Lesson #29

Lesson #29 - If you're going to buy a parrot, make sure it doesn't curse (or think it's a vampire).

We grew up with a variety of pets. We had parakeets, parrots, fish, dogs, cats, my brother (hahahaha!), and we even had finches (or something that my dad was trying to raise in our garage once). Our most colorful pet was a parrot named Cassie.

She was a nasty parrot with a sailor's mouth and a mean streak that never ended. Of course, when we got her we knew none of that. Let's just say she made her true colors known rather quickly, but not quickly enough to give her back!

You'd think I would have then learned to make sure that any pet, but any bird especially, that I wanted to get was friendly and rated G. Well, sorry to say that lesson took awhile to learn.

I decided, the year after I graduated college to get a Sun Conure. Sweet looking little thing. His name was Sunny. Although, the morning I tried to put him back in his cage before I left for work and he jumped up and LATCHED his pointy, sharp as all get out beak on my NOSE, I had a few other choice names for him. Turns out he only liked men.

He adored my boyfriend, who is now my husband, and soon found a home at his apartment. The darn bird would be sitting on my hubby's shoulder and literally RUN across the back of the sofa to bite me if I was sitting to close...like 3 feet away. I seriously hated that bird.

SO, lesson learned the hard way, but hey, I learned, right? Thanks, Mom & Dad!

I love you both!

Sunday, July 13, 2008

Lesson #28

Lesson #28 - It's okay to make a boob cake for your father & get him a stripper - just don't let the kids see.

When my mom's dad "retired" she made him a big cake with boobs. They also got a stripper who danced around his chair in our backyard.

Honestly, that sort of event stays burned in your memory. It's a bit creepy to see a stripper around your grandfather and watch him cut into giant cake boobs.

So, the lesson here is that if you're going to do those things you really should make sure the kids are gone for the day. We learned that lesson the hard way!

Thanks (I think!), Mom & Dad! =)

I love you both!

Saturday, July 12, 2008

Lesson #27

Lesson #27 - Share.

Sharing is a hard lesson to learn. Just ask the parents of two siblings close in age.

Luckily, my parents have never given up demonstrating this lesson. They share what they have with those who need it. They let others use their pool, their house, their resources...whatever it is, if they have it to lend they will.

They've even helped instill this lesson in my boys. I'll often catch them disagreeing (ha!) over who is going to play a certain video game when one of them will invariably say, "Mommom said we have to SHARE, you butta**!"

Hmm. Maybe we need a lesson in potty mouths. Next time. =)

Thanks, Mom & Dad!

I love you both!

Friday, July 11, 2008

Lesson #26

Lesson #26 - Leave it better.

My parents have always been big advocates of leaving things better than they found them. That includes their impact on people too. Leaving people a little bit better than when they met them.

It's a good lesson and one that I've been acutely aware of these last few days as I venture back into the full-time work force. I work with the elderly and some have severe dementia and alzheimers. Some of them can't communicate with words, some don't know where they are and many of them don't remember things from day to day. Their families come and visit (at least for the most part), but it's not everyday and it's hard on the sons and daughters who love them so much, but aren't recognized all of the time.

So, as I've been going into this journey of working I've been thinking a lot about why I've been given this opportunity. My mom summed it up this morning - "You're good for them." Yes, I think I am. I interact with them, I ask them questions about their lives, I listen to them, and I make them feel as safe as I can. That's what I learned to do from my parents. That's what I hope to pass on to my kids. Leave them better. Whether it's with a smile, a laugh, or simply holding a hand...leave them better.

Thanks, Mom and Dad.

I love you both!

Thursday, July 10, 2008

Lesson #25

Lesson #25 - Family comes first.

Really, this should have been the very first lesson I shared. My parents have always put family first and have been a great example to us for doing this. There's never any doubt, ever, that if my brother or I needed them they'd be here in a heartbeat...or at least in about 5 hours. =)

When my baby girl was hospitalized in January my mom found out at 1-ish and was on a plane within an hour and a half. My dad made the calls, arranged the travel and my mom was on the plane and here by 7. Thankfully, the baby was fine, but it was a huge comfort knowing that they had arranged things and were here.

And that's just what family does. That's priceless. Thanks, Mom & Dad!

I love you both!

Wednesday, July 9, 2008

Lesson #24

Lesson #24 - Don't be afraid to try new things.

This lesson ties in with yesterday's, but is on a broader scale. It's not so much about businesses and achievement, but about trying things that you'd like to do. From scuba diving and underwater videos to walking half-marathons and the Breast Cancer 3-Day, my parents just go for it.

When they decide they'd like to try something, they just do. My dad took flying lessons, my mom walked the Disney half-marathon and both of them had a blast. They're good examples of living their lives "out loud"....of not being afraid to try new things.

And that's a great lesson. =) Thanks, guys!

I love you both!

Tuesday, July 8, 2008

Lesson #23

Lesson #23 - You can do whatever you put your mind to.

My parents have always been great go-getters. Not in the traditional pushy, yuppy sense, but more of a quiet determination to try new things and see where they lead. There have been a bevy of businesses and while some worked well and others not so much, there has always been a common thread. If you want to do it, you feel passionate about it, and you think it through you can do it.

Now just because you can do it, doesn't necessarily mean that it will be a smashing success, but if you think it's worth a try then go for it. It's a great lesson and one that even my best friend from 4th grade comments on all the time - giving credit to my parents' example.

Thanks, Mom & Dad! (Now, Mom, go follow YOUR dream. You've always wanted to be a nurse, so DO it. You'd make a GREAT nurse! Check out Excelsior College (University?)...they have an online RN program.)

Love you both! =)

Monday, July 7, 2008

Lesson #22

Lesson #22 - If you're sending something out with your name on it make sure it's perfect.

My parents have always been very vigilant in making sure that things with their names, or their business' names, were proofread before being distributed. I'm also a big stickler for proofreading, but can freely admit that distractions sometimes get the best of me and typos occur.

A reminder of this lesson hit home this weekend while I was at work. There's a monthly newsletter that goes out to residents, family members and others related to the organization. Well, apparently there was no time to proofread, because July's calendar started on a Sunday and only had 30 days. The menu for the month had more typos than I could count and the font size was never reduced for long entries - hence, they were cut off.

Now I love where I work and I truly respect the people who own it. I just feel bad for them, because if one of my employees had sent out something like that with my name all over it, I'd be mortified.

Aw, well, it's a good lesson that hopefully will be learned quickly by the person who does the newsletters! Thanks, Mom & Dad!

I love you both!

Sunday, July 6, 2008

Happy Birthday, Dad!!

Happy birthday to you,
Happy birthday to you,
Happy birthday, dear Dad,
Happy birthday to you!!

We love you lots and hope you have a fantastic birthday!!

Love, hugs & smooches,
B, D, A, G, S & Kato, Skittles & Snickers

Saturday, July 5, 2008

Lesson #21

Lesson #21 - ALWAYS associate with positive people.

My Dad sent me this tidbit the other day and I must say, it is a good lesson he's passed down. My mom, too. They tend to attract people who are positive, because they're positive. It's rare to find either one of them being very negative about things. There's just no point in harping on the bad, so they focus on the good.

One thing I've noticed as I get older is that the positive people in your life tend to change. Sometimes those who are positive and good for you to be around become the most negative influences in your life. So, let them go. Surround yourself with the positive.

Lesson learned. Thanks, Mom & Dad!

I love you both!

Friday, July 4, 2008

Lesson #20

Lesson #20 - If you're planning to surprise someone it has to be timed really well.

My dad traveled a lot for work while I was growing up and he especially hated going to Boston. It was, pardon the pun, just not his cup of tea. (hehehehe - sorry, I couldn't resist.)

Well, one time my mom got this brilliant idea to surprise him by flying up to meet him. All would have gone smoothly if the plane hadn't been a bit late and traffic wouldn't have been snarled. Timing, you know?

So, after a long day of training classes my dad calls home to say hi and chat with my mom. She, of course, is not there. So, I have to stall, because I'm the unlucky one who answered the phone.

Let's just say that trying to stall with my dad on the phone is not an easy task. I think he thought I was on drugs, because I was acting so strange. Thankfully, there was a knock on his door after a few minutes of him starting to get mad, because I was stalling and not putting my mom on the phone. Lo, and behold, it was my mom at the door.

So, from this little lesson I learned that if you're planning on surprising someone plan to arrive before they decide to call home. It will make for much happier phone conversations.

Love you both! =)

Thursday, July 3, 2008

Lesson #19


Lesson #19 - Marriage and love go hand in hand.

This is a fitting lesson today for two reasons. The first is that it's my 9th wedding anniversary. Thanks for walking me down the aisle, Dad!

The second is because my dad recently emailed me the following tidbit for the blog...

"This next sentence is 100% true; "I owe everything that I have been
able to accomplish to Mom." Period. That is not an exaggeration. She
has always encouraged me, supported me and done whatever was needed to
help me succeed.

Would it be possible to include Mom in my blog? Maybe make it my "Mom
& Dad" blog? Hey, I only was able to contribute so much. Mom
contributed everything to you guys."

My parents have been married for more years than you can shake a stick at. The biggest lesson they've taught us about marriage is that you just work it out. There's no such thing as a blissfully happy couple all of the time. It's not possible. But there is such thing as a couple who loves one another, is committed to one another and, no matter what, stands by one another. That's my parents. Great lesson. Thanks, Dad and Mom!

I love you both!

Wednesday, July 2, 2008

Lesson #18

Lesson #18: Art is in the eye of the beholder.

We bought our current house in the summer of 2005. My parents came to watch the kids while we went to Texas later that summer for a conference, and when we came home it was to find that my dad had decorated for us.

A lovely, framed Elvis picture hanging in our living room. It was like a picture from "Southern Living" or "How Not To Decorate." The boys thought it was hysterically funny and every now and again will bring up the time "Poppop hung a picture of Elvis on the wall!"

It's certainly not great art and was done all in fun. At least I think so. But the lesson was really that memories are usually made with laughter....at least in our family. It was a decoration that made us laugh and every time we think of it (or come across it when we delve into the abyss of the hall closet) we laugh again. It may not be great art, but everyone needs an Elvis picture to make them laugh and remember. Now if only we could find a spot for it....

I love you, Dad! Isn't your birthday coming up soon....?? =)

Tuesday, July 1, 2008

Lesson #17

Lesson #17: Learn to be handy.

This is a big one. Since my parents live on an island in the middle of nowhere my dad has learned to be extremely handy around the house. He still won't touch lunch meat, but he can replace screen, maintain a swimming pool, fix the roof, repair all sorts of things, and is now well-versed in a myriad of handyman tasks.

This is a great lesson, because it's encouraged me to become more handy around the house. I can replace a dishwasher, install a washer and dryer, replace screen, balance our pool's levels, replace an outlet without electrocuting myself, and a bunch of other things. In fact, as I was fixing the screen the other day, the boys asked where I'd learned to do such a task. They were mighty impressed, but not really that surprised, when I said that my dad had taught me.

Thanks for this great lesson, Dad! I hope I can pass it on to my kids too!

I love you!